IVF

The Silent Hell of Infertility During Holidays

Deck your private hell with boughs of holly! The holiday season is upon us, and it can be excruciating for anyone going through infertility. With its glitter and gatherings and chatter, with its emphasis on children and family and cheer, the Thanksgiving-to-Christmas-to-New Year trifecta can feel like a series of events designed to highlight what you lack.

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How Technology Gave Me Family

I have a new story on The Huffington Post, just up today. Though people say technologies like online dating or IVF or C-sections unnaturally control things, the opposite is true. They open you to whole new levels of randomness, hazard, surprise and wonder. With IVF especially it felt like I spent a year at Reproductive Burning Man: with masses of people, piles of drugs, and anticipation of a final, cathartic event.

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A Twin Mom’s Post-Infertility Survivor Guilt

It still startles me that people make babies with sex. Privately. Easily. Fast. Then there’s a birth, and no one looks back. For me, like many women, conception was an agonized, un-caffeinated blur of escalating medical procedures, followed by a pregnancy that seemed to last not the actual 36 weeks, but rather the whole 36 […]

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